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AITA for telling my MIL her son and I are always banging??

· 4 min read

TL;DR: Husband’s MIL keeps asking when they’ll have kids in public. The wife finally snaps—“I’m fucking your son, I’ll get pregnant, I’m tired of this!” She’s not the asshole; she’s the right person to set boundaries.

The Family‑Feud‑ish Post​

Picture this: a young, newlywed couple in their mid‑20s, both blissfully unaware that the world thinks they’re “baby‑mode” 24‑/7. Their mother‑in‑law—who apparently thinks she’s the family’s personal fertility counselor—keeps dropping the classic “when are you having kids?” bomb at every family gathering, holiday, and even when the whole clan is gathered around the Thanksgiving turkey.

She never says it in a private, one‑on‑one setting. Nope. It’s always in front of everyone, like a spotlight on the most awkward moment. The wife has tried politely (and repeatedly) to say, “We don’t know yet. We’re thinking.” She’s even told the MIL to stop bringing it up publicly. But the MIL keeps it up like a broken record.

Add a personal twist: the wife has been dealing with health issues that make pregnancy a complicated, uncertain road. She wants kids, but she also wants to keep that decision private. Every time the MIL asks in front of the whole clan, the wife feels “put on the spot” and “broken,” like a silent judge is peering in.

At Thanksgiving, the MIL’s question hit a nerve: “So when are you two finally going to give us a grand baby?” The wife exploded, “I don’t understand either. We’re always trying… every single day. It just hasn’t happened yet.” The table fell silent. The husband later told her he understood her frustration but thought she might have gone a bit overboard.

Now she’s asking: Am I the asshole for telling my MIL her son and I are always banging? She even added a snarky edit: “I’m sick and tired of this behavior and I know I need to establish boundaries.”

The Comments (Spoiler‑Free, Username‑Free)​

  • “What exactly is it that you're asking? Are you asking if your son and I engage in unprotected sex? Are you asking whether or not your son wears a condom on his penis while we have sex? Are you asking if your son ejaculates inside of my vagina specifically during the ovulation phase of my menstrual cycle?”

  • Add “raw dogging it” to make the MIL more uncomfortable. She’s rude as all hell lol.

  • Hahahaha. NTA, by a long shot. You weren’t even vulgar about it. Ask stupid questions, win stupid prizes. Maybe she’ll finally leave the topic alone.

  • NTA, but you need to shut this down differently. Call her out in a very polite way that shines light on this in front of others.

  • What an unusual thing to ask in public.

  • Did you mean to ask that out loud?

  • Why do you think you are entitled to that information?

  • Why do you continue to ask personal questions in front of other people? Or at all?

  • You do realize that if we have a child, the point isn't to give you a grandchild? It's not all about you.

  • I'm curious why you ask me that once a week.

  • NTA. And you're my new hero!! Go you. I hope your health problems get figured out.

Bottom‑Line Takeaway​

The wife’s frustration is totally legitimate. Her MIL’s public “baby‑bombs” are a classic case of inappropriate boundary‑crossing. The wife’s outburst—though a bit dramatic—was a form of assertive boundary‑setting that many readers found justified. The comments largely echo that sentiment, with a few snarky side‑bars that keep the conversation lively.

So, in the grand scheme of Reddit justice, the wife is NOT the asshole. She’s just a woman who finally had enough and decided to speak her mind. The MIL? Probably needs a reality check.

And that, dear readers, is how you turn a family drama into a meme‑worthy blog post.