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AITA for locking my bedroom door after my roommate kept going to my stuff even after I asked her not to do that?

· 3 min read

The “Room‑mate Gone Rogue” Saga​

Picture this: a 27‑year‑old skincare‑connoisseur and a 25‑year‑old roommate move in together. Both swear they’re “private” about their personal items, especially the precious journals and glow‑in‑the‑dark facial serums. Fast forward a few months, and the “private” zone becomes a frequent flyer zone for the roommate—think stolen makeup, vanished chargers, and a once‑cherished dress now smelling like a man’s cologne.

The main character (our heroine) confronts the roommate, gets a polite denial, then a dramatic “Girl, chill, we’re roomies—shared stuff” moment while the roommate laughs. Feeling betrayed, she installs a simple lock on her bedroom and starts locking up whenever she’s not inside. The roommate, in a fit of “thief‑in‑training” fury, accuses her of destroying trust and treating her like a burglar. One mutual friend even says, “You overreacted, it’s just girl stuff.”

So, is she a hero protecting her fortress, or a drama queen turning a shared apartment into a high‑security compound?

The Comments (in pure comedic form)​

  • Commenter 1: “She's a thief and liar. NTA. The person who defended her is also an AH.”
    Translation: “Your roommate is clearly a sneaky thief, and anyone who thinks otherwise is also a shady character.”

  • Commenter 2: “The mutual friend was probably helping herself to some of the skincare products too.”
    Translation: “That friend’s defense might have been a cover for their own sneaky beauty routine.”

  • Commenter 3: “That’s been my whole point. I didn’t overreact, but her actions made it impossible not to protect my things...”
    Translation: “You’re not overreacting—your roommate’s antics are the real problem.”

  • Commenter 4: “NTA. She's the one who destroyed trust in your home by acting like a thief. She's exhibiting typical crybully behavior. Don't let her manipulate you into leaving your stuff unguarded again. She's just mad that she can't steal it anymore. Also you should drop any “friends” that are taking her side on this.”
    Translation: “You’re absolutely right. Drop the drama‑prone friends, and keep your lock handy.”

  • Commenter 5: “Thanks, that makes me feel a lot better... You're right, the problem has always been her, not me. to be honest, I just want my home to feel safe again.”
    Translation: “You’re relieved that the internet confirms you’re not the villain, and you’re back on track to reclaim your safe space.”

TL;DR​

You’re not a bad person for locking your bedroom door. Your roommate’s “roomie” behavior is basically a full‑time theft operation, so a lock is a perfectly reasonable defense. Drop the drama‑prone friends, keep your locks, and enjoy your safe, skin‑care‑protected sanctuary.