AITA? Mom mad because I don’t wanna clean her dirty sex sheets

Picture this: my mom is a jet‑setting workhorse, spending months overseas and then crashing back home like it’s a surprise reunion. She’s got a rule—no one can touch her sheets unless they’re sparkling fresh. I’m living rent‑free in her house, so I happily scrub the kitchen and mop the floors, but when it comes to the bedroom, I’m about as enthusiastic as a cat at a bath.

The last time she was around, her boyfriend decided to crash at our place for Thanksgiving. I heard the intimate soundtrack from my room, and let’s just say the sheets were no longer “fresh.” Now she’s heading back for the holidays, and I’m standing my ground: “I’m not touching those sheets. Even with gloves. Not even a ghost of a feel for the… memories.”

She’s fuming, comparing me to a hotel housekeeper who cleans dirty sheets all the time. I’m not a maid, Mom. I’m your child, not a professional cleaning crew. So, am I the asshole here?

Comment 1:
NTA—“I’m not a housekeeper, I’m your child.” I’ll keep the house clean, but I won’t open your bedroom and treat your sheets like a crime scene. At most, I’ll let the Roomba do its thing.

Comment 2:
I totally agree. Nobody expects a kid to swap out their own bedding. But I’d still expect them to keep the rest of the house tidy.

Comment 3:
NTA, that’s just gross. As a mother living with an adult child, I’d never ask them to clean my sheets. I’d definitely not do it for them either.

Comment 4:
NTA. Americans love to think they’re doing charity for their adult kids. You’re still responsible for basic stuff, even if you’re the one paying. If your mom’s sheets aren’t gross, she can change them herself. It takes a second.

Comment 5:
Couldn’t agree more. Some parents think the responsibility ends at 18. To all those who think that: do not have kids.

TL;DR: I’m not a maid. Mom can change her own sheets or buy a new set. I’ll keep the house clean, but I’m not cleaning “special” linens.